If you've ever asked yourself some of these questions, you're in the right place:
Is this just who I am? I can’t seem to stop this behavior – maybe this is a genetic thing?
Why can’t I stop this? I’m successful in every other area of my life – why is this the one behavior I can’t control?
Is my marriage destroyed? Will I ever be able to save the relationship?
How did I ever get into this mess? I never meant for it to go this far.
Am I ready to change? Am I really ready to let go of this addiction?
Can I even recover, or am I just broken?
What’s Possible When You Are In Recovery
You can realize definite benefits when you recover from porn or sex addiction. You may not be able to see the possibility of these coming true from where you are at today. But I have worked with many people in the exact same position as you. Here are some of the results they told me they got from recovery:
- Repaired the relationships that are the most important in my life.
- I regained the trust of my partner that I destroyed.
- Dismantled the toxic shame that keeps me isolated, depressed, and continuing to act out.
- Rediscovered who I was beneath the addiction – the core part of me that has been trying to break free from the compulsive behaviors.
- Developed a better emotional mindset: more resilience, more empathy for my wife, and more optimism and satisfaction in life.
- Built a renewed sense of healthy self-worth and self-esteem. I gained the ability to move past my behaviors and make a new life for myself.
How Do You Do That?
What Treatment for Sex Addiction Recovery Looks Like
I studied under Dr. Patrick Carnes and the International Institute for Trauma and Addiction. Dr. Carnes is a Fulbright scholar and has been studying sex addiction and helping people recover for more than 35 years. As I have finished the training, I have earned a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT) designation. The certification lets folks know the depth of training and supervision a therapist has experienced and his ability to help someone recover specifically from this issue.
Treatment happens in a variety of formats: individual, couples, group, 12-step groups. It uses counseling theories like CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy), EMDR (Eye Movement, Desensitization, and Reprocessing), experiential interventions, accountability, trauma, and emotional grief work. The curriculum is task-based and covers a wide spectrum of aspects around addiction recovery, relationship repair, and boundary creation.
Why Work With Me Instead Of Another Counselor?
Why Am I Unique?
I’ll admit – counseling for recovery from sex addiction wasn’t my first career choice.
For 26 years prior to becoming a counselor, I was a part of Fortune 500 companies, big internationals, and high-tech startups. I had a hi-tech career that spanned a variety of industries across several countries. My identity was wrapped up pretty tightly around my job title and the distorted reality that came with it.
But then about 10 years ago, I had to face my own demons. My own recovery is a major part of the motivation to help others. After working through my own recovery, I chose to study clinical counseling and integrate my psychological studies with my own business background. I believe it gives me a point of view and credibility to help others in similar positions.
Today I have a relationship with my partner I never even knew was possible. The road has been rocky and difficult, but so worth it. This hope is what I bring to the counseling relationship with you.
Since becoming a counselor, I have worked at two residential addiction treatment centers for drug and alcohol addiction. The programs were holistic and addressed counseling, addictions recovery, vocational assistance, life skills development and spiritual nurturing. Addressing only one area of a person’s life provides only limited success and leaves a person open to future issues.
OK, How Do I Get Started?
Taking The Right First Steps In Recovery
I recommend signing up for my ebook, “Taking the First 10 Steps in Recovery: How to Quit a Sex Addiction and Reclaim Your Life” It is an excellent starting point to begin your recovery journey. The ebook gives you the basic starting points to put in place that will enable a better chance for long-lasting change.